don't love and sex. my first blog.

my first blog.

its all fresh and clean.  it still has that new blog smell.  all I need to decide now is what to talk about?

it's my first, so I feel like it should be something with some teeth.  yeah.  lets do that, lets change the world.  what say we tackle something real?  a major problem facing society.  find a quick fix for something that effects almost all of us.  how about its time we all agreed not to love and sex.

yup, I said it.  why?  let me try to explain.  I see it this way:

friends don’t let friends drive drunk, everyone knows that, but many years ago it was different.  everyone drank and drove.  they hadn’t yet figured out that it was bad for you.  it wasn't regulated or enforced.  I know that the automobile was pretty much a 20^th century phenomenon, but I'm sure it was happening long before that too.  people almost certainly rode horses or drove their buggys and wagons plastered out of their minds.  maybe that was ok as long as the horse wasn't drunk too?

nowadays we all just know.  its simple.  you just shouldn’t drink and drive.

I am beginning to think that perhaps we should look at love and sex the same way?  that's right.  I am asking you to consider the possibility that we would all be better off if we didn’t sleep with the person we love?  maybe we just shouldn’t mix the two, it only seems to lead to someone getting hurt.

unlike drinking and driving though, when our relationships crash we don’t lock the person up and throw away the key.  no, no, far from it.  In fact, our closest friends seem to gather round and collectively push us back behind the wheel.  typically, some of them want to shove us back into the same tangled wreck, while others will argue that its time to go shopping for a new car, but all of them agree, we need to try again.  stopping altogether is not an option.  they are certain that if we can just keep trying, we will eventually get it right.

so that is what everyone does.  after a few test drives, most of us are right back at it, loving and sexing all over again.  it’s a god damned epidemic.  

how did it happen?  somewhere along the way these two completely unrelated things (one physical one emotional) got bundled together and the way I see it, people have been paying the price ever since.

I say enough is enough.  you say pessimism, I say practical.  lovers seem to come and go, but love should be here to stay.  I say love the people who deserve and return it. 

I'm just asking you to consider it.  thats all.  you can all start yelling at me now…….